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Healing from toxic church – seeking what is precious, and truly God

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Sabotage, coerce, shame: Bullying in the church

  • Post published:June 4, 2025
  • Post category:Healing from Toxic Church
  • Post last modified:June 8, 2025

It’s agonizing to be bullied – and it can happen to an adult, in the church. Supposedly godly people, seeking to control, plot to sabotage, coerce, shame.

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God’s heartbeat: In darkness, betrayal – life

  • Post published:March 27, 2024
  • Post category:Knowing and Going with God
  • Post last modified:May 21, 2025

It awes me again every time I see it. Leaning back on Jesus’ chest, at the moment of Jesus’ betrayal, John heard the heartbeat of God

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The blessing of mourning

  • Post published:January 12, 2024
  • Post category:Trauma and Grief
  • Post last modified:June 13, 2025

There is a time to mourn. And much fights against our doing it. But what short-circuits our grief also blocks us from Jesus’ promise of comfort and blessing.

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Illusionists! The abusers we have not seen

  • Post published:August 17, 2023
  • Post category:Healing from Toxic Church
  • Post last modified:June 7, 2025

Some illusionists fool us to amuse us. Abusers and abusive systems fool us to control us. Freedom and life hinge on seeing the illusionists we have not seen.

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Divorcing: When God does what he hates

  • Post published:July 7, 2023
  • Post category:Knowing and Going with God/Trauma and Grief
  • Post last modified:March 10, 2025

Once, in Malachi, God may have said that he hates divorce. Repeatedly, in Jeremiah, God reveals how much he hates divorcing. Repeatedly, he laments the nonstop betrayals that did, and could, bring him to do it.

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Treachery and divorce: When God sees betrayal

  • Post published:June 15, 2023
  • Post category:Healing from Toxic Church
  • Post last modified:May 19, 2025

If you have been betrayed by a spouse: The God who sees you has been there. He hates treachery. He calls out the treacherous - and he defends the betrayed.

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Celebrity culture in the church

  • Post published:May 11, 2023
  • Post category:Healing from Toxic Church/My Story
  • Post last modified:June 8, 2025

It’s so enticing, and so much a part of the US evangelical church culture. Yet the lure of celebrity can deceive us into agreeing with much that is not God.

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Masters of misdirection

  • Post published:May 31, 2019
  • Post category:From: The Elijah Blessing
  • Post last modified:December 11, 2024

Masters of misdirection spend their lives using anyone, everyone, to get whatever they want. They do it so subtly, so skillfully, that the exploited ones usually do not know they’re being used.

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God who sees me

  • Post published:February 16, 2015
  • Post category:Knowing and Going with God
  • Post last modified:May 29, 2025

Mini-post. When you think you're hidden, be blessed to know: You're not.

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God who lifts up my head

  • Post published:September 9, 2014
  • Post category:Knowing and Going with God
  • Post last modified:March 11, 2024

Again and again, the “God who …” phrases in Scripture reveal God’s works. As we respond to our Lord deep within, receiving what he communicates Spirit-to-spirit, those phrases also reveal…

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