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Healing from toxic church – seeking what is precious, and truly God

Bucking the system: Pencils neatly lined up on a paper point to a row of empty check-boxes. But one red-lead pencil points the other way, to a red outline of a heart.

Bucking the system: Shunning, submission, Jesus

  • Post published:April 2, 2025
  • Post category:Healing from Toxic Church
  • Post last modified:June 8, 2025

Jesus grew up in a religious system God had instigated, and people had hijacked to use for their own ends. Jesus’ life shows us when and how to buck the system.

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Divorcing: Orange-handled scissors cut apart a marriage certificate with a long-stemmed orange-yellow rose lying across it.

Divorcing: When God does what he hates

  • Post published:July 7, 2023
  • Post category:Knowing and Going with God/Trauma and Grief
  • Post last modified:March 10, 2025

Once, in Malachi, God may have said that he hates divorce. Repeatedly, in Jeremiah, God reveals how much he hates divorcing. Repeatedly, he laments the nonstop betrayals that did, and could, bring him to do it.

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Case of the battered boundaries

  • Post published:August 6, 2021
  • Post category:Healing from Toxic Church/My Story
  • Post last modified:March 12, 2025

Why, in midlife, did I suddenly find my boundaries battered and my adulthood denied? The answer hinged on the skewed view of womanhood in my church culture.

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Adulthood and the church that rejects it

  • Post published:July 23, 2021
  • Post category:Healing from Toxic Church
  • Post last modified:June 8, 2025

Frustrated, exhausted, I realized: I would never count as an adult in my church system. Free at last, I’m embracing the adulthood God works in his own

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Submission and Sabbath

  • Post published:June 20, 2013
  • Post category:From: What About Women?
  • Post last modified:March 16, 2024

To help us grasp the stark contrast between God's view of submission and the way some religious people view it, let's consider the contrast between God's view of Sabbath and the way some religious people have viewed it.

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Closeup, hand in hand: As a woman and her husband apparently walk together, her outstretched left hand and his outstretched right hand are clasped.

Love and honor go both ways

  • Post published:June 6, 2013
  • Post category:From: What About Women?
  • Post last modified:March 16, 2024

In a marriage that reflects God's nature and his kingdom, love and honor go both ways.

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