Treachery and divorce: When God sees betrayal
If you've been betrayed by a spouse: The Lord has been there. He hates treachery. He calls out the treacherous. And he defends the betrayed.
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Beware the illusion of refuge: Abuse in the church
Leaders in our church systems can create an illusion that refuge for the abused exists, where it does not. How can we recognize when this is happening?
Shunning in the church
When a group shuns, it rejects someone who has belonged. Find out why shunning in the church hurts so much – and why you can overcome.
When church leaders bully people and reject God
The day I realized what I had been seeing for years, it broke my heart: church leaders bullying people, rejecting God, leading their followers to do the same.
Is the SBC capable of Caring Well?
What if the ways the Southern Baptist Convention has handled clergy sexual abuse in its midst reflect the ways a narcissistic abuser handles getting caught out?
Cliques in the church
Cliques are by nature, exclusive. Where they occur in the church, they fragment the church. They prevent the people of God from becoming one.
The enemies of rest
I’ve updated Return to Your Rest, and included a chapter about enemies of rest I have faced. May God give us courage to rise up in the face of all that fights against it - and to return to rest.
Grace triumphs over power
If you have suffered at the hands of the self-absorbed, the biblical book of Esther was written for you. Far from the fairy tale we've imagined, Esther's story shows us how to overcome the chaos and destruction wreaked by narcissists who care only for themselves.
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#SilenceIsNotSpiritual – except when it is
I believe in breaking the silence of secrecy that abusers impose. I also believe that, for a survivor, silence is sometimes the most spiritual choice.