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Battered boundaries in the church

Post published: September 28, 2026
Post category:Healing from Toxic Church My Story
Post last modified: October 2, 2026

Why did I suddenly, relentlessly, find my boundaries battered? Who knew battered boundaries in the church would set me on a new life quest?

Church service 1901: Men and women sit on wooden benches in their Sunday finest, facing each other from opposite sides of the preacher, who stands behind a massive pulpit on a high platform above them all.

Adulthood and the church that rejects it

Post published: July 23, 2021
Post category:Healing from Toxic Church
Post last modified: October 29, 2026

How, and how often, does the church deny adulthood to whole groups of people? How to be adult even when others don’t count you one.

A tiny person stands on a distant mountaintop at dawn, under a vast and brilliantly colored sky.

Preparing to meet with God

Post published: May 12, 2020
Post category:Knowing and Going with God
Post last modified: September 16, 2026

Some things, you can’t wait to tell God. You run to him with the news. The Lord who invites you to meet with him delights in your coming to talk. He delights in your coming to hear. For this God has important things to say to you too.

Guys in green t-shirts pull with great determination on a tug-of-war rope.

A decisive letting go

Post published: October 10, 2018
Post category:Knowing and Going with God
Post last modified: March 12, 2024

Psalm 46:10 says, "Be still, and know that I am God." But the Hebrew verb translated "be still" actually means: "Decisively let go, or abruptly cease, something strenuous you are doing." It urges me to let go of the tug-of-war rope called enmeshment, that robs me of identity and intimacy.