Love and honor go both ways

Closeup, hand in hand: As a woman and her husband apparently walk together, her outstretched left hand and his outstretched right hand are clasped.

In a marriage that reflects God’s nature and his kingdom, love and honor go both ways.

Husband and Wife

I bless your marriage with being a multi-faceted picture of God’s relationship with his people. I bless you with not trying to paint the picture as you think it should look or as your church culture may have told you it should look. Rather, give God permission, moment by moment, to paint the picture through your marriage that HE wants to paint.

Paul described one facet of the picture:

For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. (Eph. 5:23 NLT)

Genesis 2 describes another facet of the picture:

Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.” (Gen. 2:18 NLT)

Husband

Be blessed to walk in increasing revelation of what being “the head” means – and what it does not mean.

We’ve thought it meant, “having authority over.” Yet, look again. Ephesians 5:23 says:

Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.

Jesus is Lord. He is Lord of the church. Yet Scripture does not equate Jesus’ headship of the church with his lordship and authority. Rather, “Christ is the head … he is the Savior” – who “loved the church and gave himself up for her” (Eph. 5:25).

The Greek word translated head can mean “source” or “origin,” and Jesus’ sacrificial death is the source of our life. It flows from his love, and it honors us highly. Colossians 2:19 describes Jesus’ headship this way:

The source of life, Christ, who puts us together in one piece, whose very breath and blood flow through us. He is the Head and we are the body. (MSG)

Husband, fix your eyes on Jesus, and follow him:

Walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God (Eph. 5:2).

In relating to your wife, especially, be blessed to learn the kind of headship the Savior practiced: Walk in life-giving love.

Wife

Be blessed to walk in increasing revelation of what being “a help” means – and what it does not mean.

We’ve thought it meant “serving under.” Yet, look again. The Hebrew word for “helper,” ‘ezer (ay’-zer), is used 21 times in the Old Testament. Every time, it describes one who brings aid, reinforcement and rescue – one who proves himself or herself strong in behalf of someone else. That’s honoring love too!

But there’s more! Most of the time in Scripture, the word ‘ezer is used of God himself:

We wait in hope for the Lord; he is our help and our shield. (Ps. 33:20)

Our help is in the name of the Lord, the Maker of heaven and earth. (Ps. 124:8)

In John’s Gospel, Jesus describes the Holy Spirit as the Helper.

Wife, be blessed to walk by the Spirit and so to give the same kind of help to your husband that the Holy Spirit gives to the church.

Honor and love

I bless you, Husband, with not usurping the role of Jesus in your wife’s life.

I bless you, Wife, with not usurping the role of the Holy Spirit in your husband’s life.

At the same time, I bless you both with so cooperating with God in the picture he is painting that each of you, in very real ways, reveals God to the other and to everyone around.

As each shows love and honor to the other, you are doing it to God. As each shows love and honor to the other, you are reflecting the image of God.


From What About Women? A Spirit-to-spirit Exposé © 2013, 2021 by Deborah P. Brunt.

Image by Miguel R Perez Rivas from Pixabay

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